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Reason, Season, Lifetime friends

People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

The author of this poem is unknown but I am forever grateful for the insights it brought me over the years.

I used to worry that I didn’t have any friends from high school and that the “popular” kids seemed to have such happy lives….. turns out popular doesn’t always mean happy…

Sometimes it’s ok to let people go.

When you go though a test of life, they say that’s when you know who your true friends are. And sometimes the power of great friendships can be diminished simply because of the “where are they now” effect later in life.

But that doesn’t actually mean that the friendship you had wasn’t real, it just may have been meant to be for a reason or a season, not a lifetime.

Reason, Season or Lifetime

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away.

Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.

They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life.

People will come into your life every day for a reason, season or a lifetime – just make sure you keep open to all friends.

And when you find them, when you feel the connection of a new friendship, embrace it, enjoy it for all the depth and richness it will bring.

But keep in mind that while all friendships are necessary and happening along your journey, the lifetime friends are the ones that seem to matter the most in the ends. They’re the “true friends” everyone tells you about.

They’re the ones that are always there.

They may start as reason or season friends – but they have the power to cross the divide. When you still keep in touch after the season ends…

when you can sustain conversations about more than just the reasons….

then you may have just found yourself a lifetime friend.

They’re the ones who love you for all of you. The good, the bad, the downright ugly. That ask what’s wrong and want to know the answer. They pick you up when you’re down, ground you when you’re flying out of control.

Whatever temptation, whatever distraction, whatever the reason or seasons that come along the way – nothing, not work, not money now short term wins, nothing is worth sacrificing a lifetime friend.

You’ll hurt them, they’ll hurt you and no matter what, it will all be forgiven, water under the bridge because at the end of the day, nothing matters more than the lifetime of love.

Thank you friends.

The Mayonaise Jar of Life

The Mayonnaise Jar

When things in your life seem, almost too much to handle,
When 24 Hours in a day is not enough,
Remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.


A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly,
He picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar
And proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students, if the jar was full.
They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured
them into the jar.   He shook the jar lightly.
The pebbles rolled into the open Areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full.  They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand.  The students laughed.

‘Now,’ said the professor,   as the laughter subsided,
‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things – family, children, health, Friends, and Favorite passions –
Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, Your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, house, and car.

The sand is everything else –The small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’  He continued,
there is no room for  the pebbles or the golf balls.
The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff,
You will never have room for the things that are important to you.

So…

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
Play With your children…Take time to get medical checkups…Take your partner out to dinner.

There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal..

‘Take care of the golf balls first — The things that really matter.
Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.’

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled. ‘I’m glad you asked’.
It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem,
there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.’