How do you judge your progress?

How do you judge your progress?

There’s a misconception with coaching that as soon as you engage a coach your life will start to get better. And luckily for many it does. But unfortunately for many the journey to better is through a long dark tunnel of worse.

Of course if you’re already at rock bottom, get a coach because the only way forward is up.

But what if your pain is internal? What if nobody knows you’re even afraid?

Th clients I work with in coaching are not the weak ones, they’re the strong ones. The ones that have kept everything inside for so long that nobody even knows they feel broken. And their carefully constructed surface self masks a deep unending fear of being found out.

True transformation can’t come when we take what you have and slap a fresh coat of positive paint over it; it comes from truly facing and healing the damage and crud covering our core.

So for many of my clients, happiness is the problem not the progress.

Progress comes when they admit they feel afraid and find the root cause of that fear.

It comes when they admit that they are hurt and sad and let go of the suppressed tears.

It comes when they face the hatred and the anger at the people who stole their innocent years.

It comes when they release the guilt, resentment and regret that they were the ones who let the pain continue.

For me the first sign of progress is when you do something that feels like the opposite. For the brave to be vulnerable, for the sad to express their anger and the angry to cry their tears.

Progress may be falling in love with a new hobby or falling out of love with an old one.

It is not a journey to be entered into lightly because if our outer world is created by our inner world, and it is, then when we transform and heal our inner world chances are everything in our outer world must change.

Change happens in an instant, it’s the fallout of the change that takes time to come to grips with.

It’s learning new skills, practising new behaviour and questioning everything you used to accept as true.

It’s not quitting the job, leaving the relationship, moving to a new place and hoping it will go away. It’s healing the voids that caused you to choose them and then deciding which things are still a match and choosing when and where to stay.

One of the hardest parts about progress, especially for the strong ones, is that so few people will ever know.

This entire journey that could take months or even years may not even be visible to the people in your life. Your greatest breakthrough may have been the day where you said no instead of yes or yes instead of no and nobody even noticed it was different.

But you did. Your coach will.

So honour your Own progress.

Nobody has your trauma or limitations, your beliefs or possibilities.

Don’t look sideways at what “they” are achieving – comparisons will feed the flaws.

Keep focused on who you are becoming, what you need to get there and an occasional glance at how far you’ve come.

And remember – if everything in your old life suddenly doesn’t seem to fit, good.

You’re making progress.

What is Education?

The Super Computer worked out that the answer to Life, The Universe and Everything was 42,  but along the way it seems to have forgotten the question.

Once upon a time, we knew nothing and questioned everything.

This kept us alive, helped us to grow, helped us evolve our bodies and brains into the “advanced” human species we’ve become today. But have you noticed somewhere along the way we forgot to keep physically evolving?

We finally figured out how to communicate what we’d learned, and then somehow in learning how to teach, we forgot how to learn.


Rules were created to keep us safe and schools were created to teach us what we “knew”, and at the beginning of the evolution of our society structure this was especially important because teaching allowed us to expand our society and learn from our mistakes to keep us even safer.

Except we didn’t.

The more we learned and communicated with our heads, the less we listened and explored with our hearts.

The more educated we became the easier it has been to be mentally lazy.

The more mentally lazy we become the easier it is to be controlled.

The more we are controlled, the longer we stay asleep, the easier it is to fall prey to fear.

Fear is a necessary part of our evolution because it is the instinct that helps us discern good from bad, healthy from unhealthy, safe from unsafe.

If we do not know how to defend ourselves, then it makes sense to be afraid of the dark, but that does not mean the darkness is inherently dangerous or bad.

But what if that fear is being manipulated against us? What if we’ve been trained to believe that what is safe is unsafe, what is bad is good?

We need communication to be able to evolve, to stand on the shoulders of giants rather than reinventing the wheel.

But we need curiosity to keep evolution going.

We must remember And we must question.

We have every bit of information that’s ever been discovered at our fingertips and we can use it to wake us up or to push us back to sleep.

What we learn can make us more afraid or help us to choose more love.

It’s our choice to get educated on what we want, when we want, how we want.

Breadcrumb trails lead us to more of what we love, social networks bring our mutual weirdness together so we experience even more learning, even more safety.

We are in a time where everything and anything is possible for our species and what we do with it is entirely dependent on what we’re willing to ask, accept and embrace.

There was a time where he who controlled the education controlled the power.

But with the library of the world in the palm of our hands, they can no longer burn our books, and We control the power.

This is the next stage of evolution.

If The answer is 42, let the questions begin again now.

Our four planes of awareness 


There are four levels that we experience our existence through and therefore our decisions and our change. According to metaphysics there are actually a couple more, but these are the four that most of us can comprehend and therefore are useful to help us decipher our experiences in this world.

Spiritual is simply a belief that there is something out there bigger than us. You can call it god or source or the universe or some alien kid doing a school science project but there is a faith and knowing that we are part of some greater design than just this single existence .

Mental is all things logical, our beliefs, our formal and informal education and the language we use and things we tell ourselves about the problem we have and why it’s so unique to our perspective.

Emotional is the energetic states we experience, our values, our trauma our fight or flight response.

And physical is the manifested reality our physical bodies exist in. This is the bit where gravity is real and doors are solid no matter how much we believe we are particales of light vibrating at high speed.
Our physical bodies are weak, fragile. We cut, we break, we bleed.

We can strengthen them to a point with gym workouts and great nutrition , But when our emotions are engaged, they can make us superhuman. Just think of a mum lifting a car off her baby, or outrunning a bull to save your life.

Emotions can make us strong but they can also make us weak, emotional trauma is stored in our body as disease, kinesiology shows us that lies and negative emotions drop our strength, while truth makes us strong.

So logic allows us to combat that weakness, it builds shoes so we can walk on fire, it builds shelter so we can avoid the cold. It equally sets us free and sets us up to fail – have you ever wondered what would happen if the power went out? Or tried to walk barefoot on the first hot day or summer?

Our spirituality, faith, gives us strength to go on when we are physically broken, emotionally devastated, logically making no sense, our faith in a higher purpose allows us to find the most important of human conditions- hope that everything is happening for a reason and the stronger our belief that there is a reason, the more we’ll use logic to search for it, the more passion and determination will fill our emotional tank and we’ll push our bodies through untold pain.
All four areas are operating and influencing each other at all times which is why it is ludicrous to thing we can heal our life only focusing on one.

And yet So many therapies do.

We are not separate we are one.

We are not a symptom we are a system.

If you have a challenge then you have a gap or block in one or all of the four planes and it needs to be cleared so you can move forward.
Do you need to find faith? Start with the Law of Attraction

Do you need to learn more tools? Try The Coaching Institute or books

Do you need to process your emotions? Call us for 1:1 coaching

Do you need a physical adjustment? Start with your nutrition at fionaellis.myzija.com
It doesn’t necessarily matter where you start to make change as long as you start, but if you want a professional opinion and some help to narrow it down give us a call and we can help.

Letting Go 

The last few days of the year always makes me feel like cleaning.

There’s a sense of urgency to clear out the clutter, a feeling of letting go.

This year especially with 2016 (for those of us into numerology) is a 9 year, a year of finishing, the end of a cycle of our lives.

So today is the day to get it done. Let go of anything from the last 9 years that no longer serves you.
Donate clothes that don’t feel right – even if they still fit!

Donate books you don’t read, throw out broken things you won’t mend.

Clean out the tops of the cupboards and the bottoms of the beds.

Clean the clutter, the dust and the air – open as many windows as you can find, light your favourite scented candles and bring in some fresh flowers or plants to act as a filter.

And it’s time to let go emotionally too. Time to release old grudges, leave the baggage behind.

As we look back on the year that was, there are always conversations we wish we’d had, things that could have been said, resentments for truths never set straight or regret for gratitudes never shared.

You’ll know if you have them, they feel like a lump in your throat, a weight on your chest – things you don’t want to start a new year dragging with you.

But the moment has passed, the opportunity to say it in the moment has gone forever and it’s not always worth bringing up again.

So rather than picking up the phone and risking ruining your New Years Eve, instead grab a pen and paper and write an old fashioned letter to them.

This idea came from a friend of mine and it’s a great way to release the emotion without needing anyone else to come to the party.

Why not just an email? Well there are two major reasons for doing it the old fashioned way
1. It’s Much harder to accidentally send a hard copy letter in the heat of the moment that you’ll only regret later

2. The physical act of writing is for now a different, more cathartic release than typing because for most of us we were still brought up writing by hand so our emotional neuro connections are stronger.

The purpose of this letter is not necessarily to send it. Of course you might if it turns out “perfect”, and especially if it is a letter of gratitude, love, forgiveness and reconnection.

Write from the heart, and remember – if it is a letter of resentment, write it then hold on to it for minimum 1 week before you send it. Often what happens in the writing process is that we’re able to let it go emotionally and it doesn’t matter if we get a response. Getting it out of our system is usually enough to forgive and move on much, much lighter.

So long, Farewell 2016. Thank you for the memories.

Choose Love

Sometimes it is so much harder to be good in this world
Success takes longer
You’ll get kicked harder
You’ll be ridiculed, bullied, hurt, dragged down.
You’ll lose to liars, be beaten by cheats.
And somedays you’ll question why be good at all.
It would be so much easier to quit, find an easy way out, let somebody else fix it.
But the world doesn’t get better that way.
Evil isn’t stronger or better, it cheats because it’s NOT strong enough to take the long way.
Evil acts tough but the TRUTH is – Evil is afraid.
Its afraid of being found out. It’s afraid of what is different. It is afraid of being wrong.
And that is evils weakness because Fear never wins. Fear can’t because like darkness, it can always be penetrated by even the smallest flicker of light.
Of Goodness.
Of Hope.
Of Love.
Evil is a matter of perception and closed minds. Love takes curiousity
And courage.
It takes courage to respond with curiousity instead of judgement.
Ultimately, Love wins. Always. Because Love is not the opposite of fear and hate, it’s the decision that there is something so much more important.
We are.
Our Children’s Children are.
Humanity is.
Fear is universal, but so is love.
Fear is a survival instinct, Love is necessary for survival.
Fear shrinks, love expands.
So be aware but not afraid of Evil.
Its easy to react with ever increasing levels of evil in the name of good. It takes real strength to choose kindness in the face of angry. Love in the face of fear.
Both are a choice.
Use the anger at evil acts to decide enough is enough.
Use the sadness at evil acts to bring compassion.
Fear breeds more fear, love breeds more love.
Choose love.💞

Is it time to draw the line?

“It’s not you, it’s me.”

Let’s face it, there are times when you just say that to not hurt their feelings when really you want to get out of the relationship tango with someone because they’re really starting to suck you dry.

You know the ones, the toxics, the dream stealers, the people that stab you in the back then apologise for it later.

Whether it’s family, work or a significant other, we’ve all hit a point when their behaviour gets so irritating and you just know that “if they would just change then everything would be ok because they’re the problem”.

It’s not me buddy, it’s YOU!

But…. well…what if it’s not? What if when you’re trying to spare their feelings you’re actually telling a grain of truth?

I mean let’s face it if every relationship you have ends the same way, every job hits the same glass ceiling, every friend let’s you down then there comes a point when we realise it can’t just be them because the only common denominator is, well, you.

Ouch.

I’m not saying that everything wrong is all your fault – everyone is doing the best they can with what they know – but maybe it’s worth considering that perhaps you do have something to do with it.

While this may be confronting at first, there comes a moment when accepting and believing this becomes really freeing because it is the source of ultimate personal power.

Let’s face it, I don’t know if you’ve noticed yet but you absolutely cannot change anyone. No matter how hard you try, and even though on the surface they may look like they’ve changed they’ll eventually Spring back to true form.

Sure you can change your external environment, quit your job, leave your relationship, move countries – but wherever you go, your problems will keep repeating until deal with the root cause. It’s like chopping the top off a weed and wondering why it grows back.

The only way to stop them growing back is to deal with the roots of the problem.

If the only thing we can change is ourselves then once we accept that the root of our problems is us then it means we can change permanently, get rid of the issues once and for all.

Then the question becomes not can you, it’s will you.

Can you is easy. Every relationship no matter how toxic it seems right now, can be saved with the right tools and guidance by working through the logical levels of change.

Our relationships, jobs, good, bad and ugly are all just the physical evidence of what is going on inside – our beliefs, values, boundaries, passions, skills and behaviours are all bringing us closer to what we believe to be true about our world, making sure we experience what we expect to see. It has to – otherwise we would think we’re going mad.

External-internal change

The tougher question is if the relationship is worth saving. Because saving the relationship will mean comprise and it’s not compromise with them, as some people would think, it’s compromise within you.

Any new relationship- whether intimate, family, friends, school or work – requires a adjustments to make the relationship work. Sometimes this is easy. There is a feeling that you just click and there is very little compromise needed.

In other relationships there is more of a clunk. Perhaps because you were put together by force not choice. Or perhaps a new addition brings a new dynamic that throws a previously great relationship off balance.

But how low will you go?

Getting rid of a few bad behaviours are considered acceptable and often a bonus of being in a new, healthy relationship. But are you willing to change your values or sacrifice your dream?

Just because you can change, doesn’t mean you should. Just because you should change, doesn’t mean you will.

With each level that must change, the effort required to sustainably change is higher. Because to sustainably change levels below, you are fundamentally changing you and years of deeply ingrained patterns of your thinking that started forming as a baby.

So why would you?

Well, why indeed. The only reason anyone changes any internal level (behaviour to identity) is if they have good reason and these reasons either from the top down, Environment, or bottom up, spiritual purpose – love.

Top down change is pushed by external pressures – time, money, someone said you should, new relationships/jobs etc

Bottom up change is inspired by internal truth – love, mission, identity change (spoiler alert – this is always going to have the strongest pull no matter how hard you try to suppress and ignore it)

If the why is big enough and important enough to you – you’ll change. If not, nobody can ever make you.

Yeah, but should I stay or should I go?

Stay or go

Regardless of who’s to blame, if the situation is bad enough for you to be considering leaving then something must change.

While it’s tempting to take the easy path, taking a few extra moments to work on yourself can turn a painful problem into an opportunity to learn and grow.

Here’s a few simple questions to help you decide which change is worth it. Ask and answer them exactly as they are written – yes, they’re a bit confusing but give it a go and see what comes up.

Cartesian Coordinate Questions (aka The Mind Scramble Test)

  • What WILL happen if I DO leave
  • What WILL happen if I DON’T leave
  • What WON’T happen if I DO leave
  • What WON’T happen if I DON’T leave

Once you’ve answered them all with leave, answer them again with stay and see how your answers change.

Let us know if you need a hand…

Six Core Needs – Why do I do that?

Have you ever wondered why we do what we do?

In coaching and human behaviour we know that while each human being is unique, we also share nervous systems that function in the same way, which means there are finite number of human behaviour patterns that we all have in common – we just put them together in many different ways.

The Six Core Needs is one such pattern that is regarded as one of the most influential in how we live and function as a society and critical to how we achieve happiness and fulfillment or live a life of quiet desperation since all behaviour meets one or all those six needs.

In any given moment, these six core needs are the source of lasting, sustainable happiness and fulfillment. Unfortunately they’re also the source of addictions, violent behaviour and depression.

How can the same six needs give such completely different results?

Let’s take a look. First up, here are the Six Core Human Needs from Anthony Robbins.

  1. Certainty: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure, safety, security
  2. Uncertainty/Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli, adventure
  3. Significance: feeling unique, important, special or needed, independence
  4. Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something
  5. Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability or understanding
  6. Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others

 

The Six Core Needs are broken into two parts – the top four are needs of the Ego, and the last two are needs of the Spirit. The top 4 are the most compelling and as much a part of our life as gravity – doesn’t make sense and we don’t always like it but I still don’t recommend you test the theory.

You’ll notice that they’re also in sets of two that look contradictory to each other – Certainty and Uncertainty/Variety, Significance and Connection/Love. That’s because with each set there is such thing as too much of a good thing.

Have you ever noticed that when things become to certain, too much routine, too much same-same groundhog day then we’ll find a way to spice things up a bit, “Variety is the spice of life” they say.

And have you ever seen significant people that appear to have it all, fame and fortune, but feel alone and spiral out of control because they cant find real connection and love?

Whether we’re consciously aware of it or not, our top four needs are being met every day as they have become crucial to our survival, but we all meet and prioritise them differently. As a general rule, we each have a top two “driver” needs and the priority we choose will impact every aspect of our life, and can cause major conflict – especially in our careers and relationships – if we need to  interact with people with a different priority order.

Every need is happening, but which one do YOU prioritise?

Four needs of the Ego
Six Core Human Needs – Four needs of the Ego

On a day to day basis we always have all 4 top needs happening, but there are two in particular that will drive our decisions – one from each set, and within those two there will be one that sits as number 1 priority – the tie breaker Driver need.

To work out your number one Driver, look at each need asking “If you could only have one or the other, which would you choose?” Then take the one you choose and compare it with the next one down.

For example – Certainty or Variety – Certainty. Certainty or Significance – Certainty. Certainty or Connection/Love – Certainty. Number 1 need is Certainty.

Then for number two, do the same with the remaining 3 needs.

Variety or Significance – Significance. Significance or Connection/Love – Connection/Love. Connection/Love or Variety – Connection and Love. Number 2 need is Connection/Love.

Be aware though that the words themselves can impact on people’s choices so make sure you use the descriptions above to get a true representation of your number 1 and 2 driving needs.

When faced with a decision, everyone will decide on the behaviour’s or actions to take based on their driving need, people who are driven by certainty/security will make very different decisions about careers, holidays and investments with a level of risk, to people who are driven by variety/adventure.

This can lead to a lot of challenges for couples trying to plan a holiday if they have different priority drivers…

Sliding Scales

Even within the priority drivers, there is difference. Imagine that each need set is 100%, within each one we each have a sliding scale balance point where we feel the most comfortable – our natural balance.

If someone has Certainty as number one then it could mean that they have anywhere from 51% Certainty to 99% Certainty (49% Variety to 1% Variety)

This changes the behaviour extremes.

  • 60% Certainty – likes going to the same restaurant, prefers a secure job
  • 75% Certainty – has a set daily routine, prefers an autonomous role they are in control of.
  • 90% Certainty – needs to be in control of most aspects of life, often displays OCD behaviour’s, does not respond well to sudden change

Sometimes our sliding scales get out of whack either by our choice or someone else’s, and when they do it creates extra stress that needs to be managed and brought back into alignment. Read about how to handle change here.

Resourceful / Unresourceful

As we meet the top four needs, our behaviour will be either be resourceful or unresourceful – which forms the most dramatic difference between fulfillment or frustration.

Consider the following questions. Is this behaviour:

  • Internal or External Driven?
    • Internal – 100% up to me and reliant on my actions and perspective to succeed
    • External – requires other people or things to go right or be controlled to succeed.
  • Sustainable or Unsustainable
    • If everyone did this same behaviour would the world/business/community be a good sustainable place to be?
  • Ecological
    • Good for me, good for you, good for the greater good?

Resourceful behaviour’s= internal driven, sustainable, ecological.

Unresourceful behaviour’s = external driven, unsustainable, not ecological.

Six Core Human Needs and behaviours from Anthony Robbins - why we do what we do
Six Core Human Needs and Behaviour’s

 

It is important to remember that with all behaviour it is still context dependent so while the behaviours here are generally considered to be resourceful or unresourceful – there will still be certain contexts or extremes that push them to the other side. Eg. Cleaning is a resourceful way to meet your need for certainty, but obsessive compulsive cleaning can lead to an inability to leave the home. Drug taking is an unresourceful way to meet the need for variety but many chronic pain sufferers smoke marijuana to be able to find relief from the pain. Read more here.

Needs of the spirit.

Six Core Human Needs - Two needs of the Spirit
Six Core Human Needs – Two needs of the Spirit

The final two needs are unattainable until the top four are being met in a resourceful way. They’re also the most compelling needs that can pull us forward through more challenges than the top four alone.

Many people say that growth and learning can be achieved at the same time as unresourceful behaviours (enter university…) but there always comes a point where the next level or growth requires a decision to let go of the old behaviour for the new  – like throwing off sandbags from a rising hot air balloon.

The final need is the source of ultimate happiness which is being able to contribute to others in meaningful way. There is a reason that we all rally together in a crisis. As humans we’ve learnt that there is survival not just of the fittest but in our society its how we work together and the community we have around us.

At our core, we have a need to want to help others for no other reason than it just feels good. As Zig Ziglar said – “If I help enough people’s dreams come true, mine get taken care of.”

 

 

With thanks to Anthony Robbins

https://training.tonyrobbins.com/the-6-human-needs-why-we-do-what-we-do/

New Years Resolutions 

OK, I’ve held off posting these til now because day 3 is where most New Years Resolutions start to crack.

And with many of us returning back to work today I figure that by tomorrow you’re going to need some extra motivation… or at least a midday distraction….whatever works.

Since the invention of the calendar, many cultures consider the start of a new year to mark a significant milestone in our life. Babylonians made promises to their gods at the start of each year that they would return borrowed objects and pay their debts, and early traditions were simply based on a person making a promise to make an act of self improvement or something slightly nice such as opening the door for people.

Our desire to improve, grow and make positive changes in our lives is part of what makes us human, and the Major NY milestones, often referred to in the Psychology world as a temporal landmark acts like an imaginary line in the sand separating the old inferior self from a new and improved version. For some people birthday’s, anniversaries or even the start of a new week or month can have the same effect.

The problem is that even though you make a grand public declaration – the only thing that actually changes is the clock.

Anytime you use an external factor as your source of motivation for change you’re more likely to fail because at best, you will give yourself an elegant excuse to procrastinate – waiting for the calendar to tick over. It’s like expecting the grass to be greener on the other side of the fence, rather than just watering your own grass.

The bigger problem with using an external factor is that most people aren’t ready to change their
habits, particularly bad habits and so they set unrealistic goals on a whim – but unfortunately, our new selves are usually not much better than the old ones.
When you fail to achieve goals or make positive affirmations about yourself that you don’t really believe, the positive affirmations not only don’t work, they can be damaging to your self-esteem.

People wonder why they don’t feel great about themselves… it’s because they live a lie… they make a decision and they don’t act… they kid themselves it didn’t matter… or they tell themselves they’re too busy… But what they didn’t do was take action in the moment of the decision…and then keep taking consistent action til their goals are achieved.

Self worth is an indicator of how much you trust yourself, so every time you make a promise to
yourself and then let you down you like yourself a little less. It’s obvious when you Think about it, how do you feel about people who lie to you? Do you want to be around them? Of course not!

Making resolutions work involves changing behaviors—and in order to change a behavior, you have to change your thinking (or “rewire” your brain).

So, if you’ve already broken a resolution or two, draw an imaginary line in the sand and use the following guidelines to set some resolutions you’ll actually keep in 2016.

Don’t

  • Make bold promises you have no intention of keeping (insert “I’m never drinking again” here)
  • Set the exact same resolutions you failed to achieve last year – unless something is different , nothing will be different
  • Try to make a complete 180 life change

Do

  • Pick a theme, one single priority focus that you use to guide all decisions you make this year eg Family, Adventure, Health, Wealth,
  • Make a plan and review it regularly
  • Take action every day to move toward your dreams
  • Start by committing to foundation habits

Foundation habits – these are the habits that might seem small and insignificant, but are actually the foundation of many other good habits and routines meaning the end up having a massive income on your life.

They’re also incredibly good way of building your muscle of discipline which will make sticking with bigger habits ( like going to the gym…) later
Eg make the bed every morning, floss daily, load the dishwasher every night

Great foundation habits should be short & simple, unaffected by external forces like weather, and happen every day so you can build a routine of discipline. And no matter how much easier it is not to, you must follow through every day!

Need some extra inspiration? Watch my Live Your Dream class to help give you some extra clarity and what this year could hold for you.

Happy New Year

As the first sun rises for 2016 it gives new hope that this year will be different, this year will be the one where we follow our dreams, keep our resolutions and live happily ever after.

But the year alone won’t do that. In All the fuss, fireworks and frivolity of NYE, remember nothing changed – unless you do. No problems miraculously went away, no weight miraculously disappeared from your hips and unless you had the winning power ball ticket (which we did not) your bank account is unlikely to look any better today than your head feels.

The stroke of midnight does not in itself Change anything more than the calendar on your wall. But you do still have the chance to choose a fresh start, a different decision and change how You do things differently this year.

This year will probably be filled with as many challenges as last year, maybe even more. How you handle them is what can change.

This year will likely fly by even faster – it is up to you to make the most of the moments in it.

If you do the same things this year as you did last year then don’t kid yourself by expecting different results – you’re only setting yourself up to fail.

If you truly want this year to be different – then change what you’re putting into it. Change your thinking, change your behaviours and your results will have to change.

Whatever action you take today, on January 1st, is the only real commitment you’ve made to yourself to change your year.

If you did nothing new then….maybe do something different tomorrow.

Change is by choice, so this year be the change you want to see in the world and enjoy the journey. Remember, You can’t appreciate the highs til you know the lows, the contrast is where the joy is found.

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Most people have tried to quit smoking many times before they finally succeed. They may even have a few days smoke free but then start again because they haven’t planned for the how they’re going to deal with the triggers that made them smoke in the first place.

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If your 2016 New Years Resolution is to finally quit  and  follow through on those New Years Resolutions you’re committed to, our sessions are the perfect helping hand to make sure you succeed this time.

APPLICATION ONLY

All Aligned Future Hypnotherapy sessions are available by application only. We guarantee that at the end of each session you will be completely smoke free and armed with the tools to be a non smoker for life, but we only accept clients who are truly committed to making the change.

To request an interview please email alignedfuture@gmail.com .

Once your application has been received your Aligned Future Coach will guide you through the best tools for your circumstances.

Available Sessions – evening and weekend sessions available. Contact your coach to see if you are suitable for a skype or phone session.