How do you judge your progress?

How do you judge your progress?

There’s a misconception with coaching that as soon as you engage a coach your life will start to get better. And luckily for many it does. But unfortunately for many the journey to better is through a long dark tunnel of worse.

Of course if you’re already at rock bottom, get a coach because the only way forward is up.

But what if your pain is internal? What if nobody knows you’re even afraid?

Th clients I work with in coaching are not the weak ones, they’re the strong ones. The ones that have kept everything inside for so long that nobody even knows they feel broken. And their carefully constructed surface self masks a deep unending fear of being found out.

True transformation can’t come when we take what you have and slap a fresh coat of positive paint over it; it comes from truly facing and healing the damage and crud covering our core.

So for many of my clients, happiness is the problem not the progress.

Progress comes when they admit they feel afraid and find the root cause of that fear.

It comes when they admit that they are hurt and sad and let go of the suppressed tears.

It comes when they face the hatred and the anger at the people who stole their innocent years.

It comes when they release the guilt, resentment and regret that they were the ones who let the pain continue.

For me the first sign of progress is when you do something that feels like the opposite. For the brave to be vulnerable, for the sad to express their anger and the angry to cry their tears.

Progress may be falling in love with a new hobby or falling out of love with an old one.

It is not a journey to be entered into lightly because if our outer world is created by our inner world, and it is, then when we transform and heal our inner world chances are everything in our outer world must change.

Change happens in an instant, it’s the fallout of the change that takes time to come to grips with.

It’s learning new skills, practising new behaviour and questioning everything you used to accept as true.

It’s not quitting the job, leaving the relationship, moving to a new place and hoping it will go away. It’s healing the voids that caused you to choose them and then deciding which things are still a match and choosing when and where to stay.

One of the hardest parts about progress, especially for the strong ones, is that so few people will ever know.

This entire journey that could take months or even years may not even be visible to the people in your life. Your greatest breakthrough may have been the day where you said no instead of yes or yes instead of no and nobody even noticed it was different.

But you did. Your coach will.

So honour your Own progress.

Nobody has your trauma or limitations, your beliefs or possibilities.

Don’t look sideways at what “they” are achieving – comparisons will feed the flaws.

Keep focused on who you are becoming, what you need to get there and an occasional glance at how far you’ve come.

And remember – if everything in your old life suddenly doesn’t seem to fit, good.

You’re making progress.

Business Essentials Program

Growing your Business is a skill and can and must be learned.

In business, coming up with a big idea is just the beginning and definitely not the hardest part.

The hardest part of building a business is one starting and two continuing to grow and move past the daily obstacles and challenges that come your way.

You’ve come this far on your journey, but what’s going to get you to the next level? Many business owners we have worked with have found the answer is not working harder.

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Business Essentials online program allows you to learn the essential skills to launch and run a world-class business from the comfort of your own home, or beach or kids footy game.

We’ve left out the excess and kept only the essentials to take your business from hobby to happening less than 5 Days – then revisit classes as often as you like FOR LIFE to make sure it sticks.

Click here to find out more about How to build your Heart Based Business – from hobby to happening in 5 simple steps.

 

What is Education?

The Super Computer worked out that the answer to Life, The Universe and Everything was 42,  but along the way it seems to have forgotten the question.

Once upon a time, we knew nothing and questioned everything.

This kept us alive, helped us to grow, helped us evolve our bodies and brains into the “advanced” human species we’ve become today. But have you noticed somewhere along the way we forgot to keep physically evolving?

We finally figured out how to communicate what we’d learned, and then somehow in learning how to teach, we forgot how to learn.


Rules were created to keep us safe and schools were created to teach us what we “knew”, and at the beginning of the evolution of our society structure this was especially important because teaching allowed us to expand our society and learn from our mistakes to keep us even safer.

Except we didn’t.

The more we learned and communicated with our heads, the less we listened and explored with our hearts.

The more educated we became the easier it has been to be mentally lazy.

The more mentally lazy we become the easier it is to be controlled.

The more we are controlled, the longer we stay asleep, the easier it is to fall prey to fear.

Fear is a necessary part of our evolution because it is the instinct that helps us discern good from bad, healthy from unhealthy, safe from unsafe.

If we do not know how to defend ourselves, then it makes sense to be afraid of the dark, but that does not mean the darkness is inherently dangerous or bad.

But what if that fear is being manipulated against us? What if we’ve been trained to believe that what is safe is unsafe, what is bad is good?

We need communication to be able to evolve, to stand on the shoulders of giants rather than reinventing the wheel.

But we need curiosity to keep evolution going.

We must remember And we must question.

We have every bit of information that’s ever been discovered at our fingertips and we can use it to wake us up or to push us back to sleep.

What we learn can make us more afraid or help us to choose more love.

It’s our choice to get educated on what we want, when we want, how we want.

Breadcrumb trails lead us to more of what we love, social networks bring our mutual weirdness together so we experience even more learning, even more safety.

We are in a time where everything and anything is possible for our species and what we do with it is entirely dependent on what we’re willing to ask, accept and embrace.

There was a time where he who controlled the education controlled the power.

But with the library of the world in the palm of our hands, they can no longer burn our books, and We control the power.

This is the next stage of evolution.

If The answer is 42, let the questions begin again now.

The Secret to Success

Great success does not happen because you decided to try one day.

It does not happen because you really hoped it would.

It does not happen because you had a burst of enthusiasm and a moment of massive action – then spat the dummy and walked away when the results didn’t show up right away.

Great success comes when you lean in when everyone else is stepping out.

It comes with you keep showing up with the same passion, determination and grit – even when the results haven’t shown up yet.

It’s the sum of small decisions, consistent actions repeated every single day that move you in the direction of your dreams.

Most people need to see evidence of their effort being rewarded before they’ll continue making the effort.

They look to the external and start worrying about what they don’t have instead of staying clear on what they want.

They bring it for a day or two then drop their standards because nobody is looking and nobody else is bringing it so why should they?

 

The only secret to success is to show up longer than the things trying to defeat you.

Successful people know that the darkest moments are simply the test to ensure they’re really ready to handle the incredible rewards that are just about to follow.

The rest is just the scenery.